Offering individual, couples, family and group therapy in-office and online.
Approved to practice telehealth under PSYPACT and with NY State Residents.
Approved to practice telehealth under PSYPACT and with NY State Residents.
Has the intimacy and connection in your marriage been replaced by distance and contempt?
Do you often go to bed angry despite an agreement with your partner not to?
Do you feel unheard or unseen by your partner?
Has the discovery of an affair, or intimate or other betrayal, shaken the foundation of your relationship?
Are you and your partner having the same fight over and over?
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and your relationship doesn’t have to stay this way
“Bonding goes from the cradle to the grave.”
Relationships can be a source of one’s greatest joy and deepest pain. What begins with passion, excitement, closeness, and friendship can erode into distance, anger, frustration, contempt, and indifference. Anyone can fall in love, but staying in love requires self-awareness, consistent effort, and communication. Maintaining intimacy while mastering life’s challenges, preserving a satisfying sexual relationship, and raising children requires awareness, commitment, and communication. Without attention and care, these stressors can erode the foundation of the partnership.
We cycle through connection, disconnection, and reconnection like a repetitive dance. In the Season 3 finale of This is Us, Beth highlights her and Randall’s ongoing conflict, regardless of how it shows up, as having the ‘same fight over and over again’.
The truth is, relationships don’t fall apart overnight. The subtle wounds that destroy love and marriage disguise themselves as unimportant—small neglects, unspoken hurts, unresolved conflicts—accumulate over time. They are not bombs and gunshots but rather pinpricks or papercuts. These tiny breaches, where the bleed out is so gradual that many of us don’t recognize the threat until it’s too late to stop. Couples land in a sea of deep divides, feeling disconnected, hopeless, or like strangers.
By the time couples land in relationship therapy, they feel like strangers, lost in an endless loop of conflict, mistrust, and emotional disconnect where even simple daily tasks of living have significantly deteriorated, and it appears as though differences are irreconcilable. Or when a blatant rupture or betrayal has occurred.
Couples therapy can be the turning point that provides a base to rebuild. It provides a pause to look at the relational dynamics and reassess the dance. It helps us understand what we are fighting for, which is often disguised by what we are fighting about. It provides a space to rediscover to rediscover what truly matters.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Couples therapy isn’t just about fixing “problems”; it’s about returning to the roots of connection. It requires a commitment by both parties to be effective. It can undoubtedly happen for you, but you have to show up.
Intimacy and closeness conjure up associations that are painful and anxiety-provoking. Through emotional holding and containment, tracking your cycle, and resolving the blocks that serve to sabotage intimacy, can marriage counseling remove the impasse and stimulate growth and wholeness; it can help repair the rupture. It gives couples the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, increase emotional regulation, and heal wounds, even wounds that show up in the couple that emanate from childhood. With the reworking of the marital script, the “us” can move past the pains and rebuild the relationship to one that is healthier and more mature, and whole. There can be a renewed affection, respect, cooperation, romance, and passion that was once a vital component of the relationship.
Working with the “us” rather than the “I” is fundamental.
Individual therapy is an adjunct to relationship counseling or an alternative in instances where your partner refuses to attend sessions or if you or your partner is coping with mental illness, substance abuse, or other issues.
Challenges that threaten relationships include:
These challenges are not your fault, and with the right tools, you can overcome them.
Couples therapy is tailored to meet the unique needs of your relationship. It begins with a foundational intake session of either a 75-minute couples’ intake, a two-hour couple’s intake, or a three-hour couples jumpstart. Subsequent sessions are 1-2 hours, in person or via telehealth. Multiple and extended sessions might be indicated at the outset in situation where the couple is in crisis.
There are various approaches in couple’s therapy. My work is grounded in evidence-based practices from psychoanalytic/psychodynamic/object relations theories, systems, group, and behavioral-oriented therapies with a strong emphasis on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT).
In cases where there are irreconcilable differences, marriage counseling can help couples separate and move on.
If your relationship struggles with sexual concerns, working with someone trained in and using an integrated model is key. Relational issues within a couple-ship are yet one piece of the sexual pie, and where things can be misaligned.
Unfortunately, the barrier between sex and couples work has been and surprisingly continues to be a challenge amongst the majority of trained practicing professionals. For that reason, I remain an excellent choice to guide you through this process; I possess the skillset, vocabulary, and experience to work with couples’ concerns both in and out of the bedroom.
Conventional weekly therapy is effective but, at times, inefficient and slow-moving. Intensives offer you that concentrated, accelerated, and intense focus to help you fast-track the process and achieve breakthroughs that would take months of weekly therapy.
Intensives for couples represent a perfect start for a couple who:
We know that some things can be better accomplished with an in-depth, streamlined effort. As such, high doses of intensive, depth-oriented, goal-driven treatment can achieve even deeper, longer-lasting results. And concentrated blocks of time allow for an all-out, accelerated treatment and streamlined process. You can accomplish in two or three days in-depth breakthroughs which might otherwise take six months in conventional weekly therapy.
I offer intensives in my office in Boca Raton, Florida, for couples with the following concerns:
Take a bold step towards healing and revitalizing your relationship. Explore the possibility of a Couples Intensive and learn how we can facilitate your rediscovering intimacy, trust, and connection.
Learn more about couples’ intensives here and at www.southfloridaintensives.com.
Whether you’re facing a slow drift or a seismic betrayal, there is a path forward—if both partners are willing. Let’s work together to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and rekindle the connection that first brought you together.