Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma . . . Is Staying the New Shame?
Almost daily I get asked “If I stay am I an idiot?”, “What will others think if I stay?”, “I have heard from my family that I’m a martyr if I stay, is that true?” [...]
Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse: A Prelude to Healing
This article is repurposed on psychotherapy.net It’s well documented in psychology that trauma gets stuck in the body/mind. We know from the neurobiological authority that trauma, if not adequately consolidated at the moment of conception, [...]
Mindful Relating . . a Valentines’ musing
Welcome to this moment. In honor of Valentine's Day, it's relevant for us all to take a mindful moment and strengthen our connection. It's an opportunity to stop, pause, get present and get connected to [...]
5 Things to Consider Before You Begin Couples Therapy
The frequency with which inquiries show up in my practice for couples therapy is far greater than before. I receive calls daily from all kinds of couples... Married, pre-married, cohabitating, post-married, heterosexual, gay, straight, ambivalent, committed, [...]
Therapeutic Presence: Mindfulness in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
In a former blog piece, I addressed the core concept in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as working with “the space between”. That is, within the interactional pattern of the couple-their dialogue, inter-communication, the synergy that [...]
Sex Addiction: A Diagnosis of Controversy
As reported by CNN, “For the first time, compulsive sexual behavior -- commonly called sex addiction -- is classified as a mental health disorder on the World Health Organization's International Classification of Diseases (ICD) list [...]