Offering individual, couples, family and group therapy in-office and online.
Approved to practice telehealth under PSYPACT and with NY State Residents.
Approved to practice telehealth under PSYPACT and with NY State Residents.
Does sex feel less like a choice and more like an urge you can’t resist?
Do you find yourself turning to pornography, hookups, or secret affairs—despite the shame, secrecy, and consequences?
Has living a double life left you trapped in deceit, fear, and guilt?
Have you tried to stop—only to return to the same behaviors, even after emotional, social, financial, or legal consequences?
You are not alone. And this isn’t just about the sex—it’s about something far deeper—it’s about the underlying patterns driving out-of-control sexual behavior.
Research suggests that nearly 12 million people in the U.S. struggle with some form of sexual addiction. With digital technology, access to sexual content has never been easier—affordable, anonymous, and endlessly available at the swipe of a finger.
For some, sex is a playground—an expression of exploration, pleasure, intimacy, and freedom. For others, it becomes something else entirely: an escape, a compulsion, a way to numb emotional pain—it’s about the chase, the anticipation, a dopamine-fueled high that briefly quiets the inner turmoil. But the relief is fleeting—and the cycle resets.
“My fear of abandonment is only exceeded by my terror of intimacy.”
Sex addiction isn’t just a betrayal of your partner—it’s also a betrayal of yourself. The search for sexual intensity often masks a more profound longing: for connection, for love, or for the escape from pain.
The consequences can be devastating—broken trust, sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, financial wreckage, legal fallout, and most of all, a barrier to real intimacy. The cost is not only external; it strikes at the core of your self-worth.
Out-of-control sexual behavior can manifest in many ways:
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At its core, out-of-control sexual behavior is not about a lack of willpower. It’s rooted in deep emotional patterns—linked to attachment wounds, trauma, or unmet needs.
It is intertwined with:
What once served as survival becomes a prison. The wound is where your story begins, but it doesn’t have to be where it ends.
Sex addiction shows no preference for gender. Men often act out—through porn, anonymous sex, voyeurism, happy endings, or sex workers. Women often act in—through seduction, fantasy-driven behaviors, or using sex for validation and power. For many women, compulsion repeats earlier trauma; for men, it may cloak unmet intimacy needs.
Different faces, but the same core: a disorder of intimacy, attachment, and dysregulation.
The mental health field continues to debate the language of “sex addiction,” but the pain it causes is undeniable. While the DSM-5 no longer lists hypersexual disorder as a diagnosis, the lived reality of compulsive sexual behavior is clear.
Different frameworks—attachment theory, trauma repetition, neurobiology, impulse control, and emotional regulation—shed light on why these behaviors persist. Integrating these perspectives creates a roadmap for recovery, one that treats the behaviors while healing the wounds beneath them.
Despite debates in the field, the pain is real—and so too the possibility of change. Treatment is not about repressing sexuality; it’s about restoring a healthy, integrated erotic self.
My approach blends training in the evidence-based Carnes model along with a foundation in sexology and psychology—grounding treatment in science, relational depth and lived human experience. I integrate trauma therapy, EMDR and mindfulness to calm dysregulation, along with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to repair broken bonds. Together, these tools create a pathway out of secrecy and compulsion and toward lasting change.
This isn’t about silencing your sexuality—it’s about reclaiming choice, integrity and connection.
Love addiction isn’t about the sex—it’s about the pursuit of connection at any cost. The intoxicating rush of attraction or a new romance, the thrill of seduction, the chase that feels like love but is, in truth, a cycle of longing and loss. Love addicts compulsively seek relationships, mistaking intensity for intimacy. Seduction, manipulation, or fantasy-driven behaviors serve to secure the object of affection.
Unlike sex addiction, which thrives on secrecy and physical release, love addiction thrives on obsession. The “high” comes from romance, fantasy, or the emotional roller-coaster of unpredictability. Yet the cycle invariably collapses—into despair, fixation and restless search for the next fix.
Love addiction is less about who you love than about the emptiness you’re trying to fill—that love will make us whole and that through the pursuit, we stay alive
Love isn’t meant to be a battlefield—a place of bloodshed where you are at war for attention, mistake chaos for passion, and sacrifice your worth to stay in the game. Real love should not leave you anxious, unworthy, or addicted to the highs and lows.
You don’t have to live in secrecy, shame, or cycles of compulsive or out-of-control sexual behavior. Therapy offers a way back—helping you uncover the wounds driving your behavior, and build a relationship with sexuality that is healthy, honest, and whole.
You don’t have to navigate this alone. But the first step begins with you.